A day in Sophie's neighborhood
Yesterday, I was very excited and flattered to have been invited to my friend Sophie’s home in a neighborhood of Kigali. We made plans several days ago to meet at 11:00am on Saturday to go to her house and walk around town. However, I wasn’t too sure of the details since unfortunately my French still isn’t very complete. Regardless, I was honored to be invited to someone’s home!
On Saturday morning, Sophie came to the guest house to meet me. We immediately walked to the bus stop, and I must’ve looked confused because she laughed and asked if this was my first time on the buses. The public buses here are similar to VW buses and at any given time, there are about 15 or so passengers. I’ve avoided them mostly because I was afraid I wouldn’t know how to tell the driver where I wanted to go (i.e. I’ve been a wimp).
After a few stops, we arrived at Sophie’s neighborhood and she introduced me to the driver of the bus, who happened to be her cousin. As we started to walk through the neighborhood, it became apparent that Sophie knows everyone. She introduced me to perhaps 10-15 people during our walk, always calling me her friend (inshuti). At one point she introduced me to a gentleman who asked where I was from. I replied that I was from the U.S. and then waited for his reaction. I guess I’m used to assuming that Americans are not the most popular people around the world; so I was pleasantly surprised when he excitedly replied, “Ah yes! American! I knew it!” With that, he shook my hand again. Afterwards, I asked Sophie if the Rwandan people liked Americans, and she said that, in fact, they like us very much because Rwandan people like Obama. I thought this was interesting, although not surprising considering how many Obama shirts I’d seen people wearing, so I asked her why people liked Obama. Her response translated literally to mean, “It is good that he is a mix of both black and white. Many people can like him.”
Our first stop in Sophie’s neighborhood was a home that she called her “family’s home.” We walked down an unpaved road into more of a residential area and came to a nine-foot tall, bright red gate. She opened it (which is odd because normally you have to knock and have someone open from the inside) and we stood in front of a one-story stucco house. Right after we walked through the gate, a woman walked out of a concrete-walled area across from the house that looked like showers. Sophie introduced me briefly, but I was surprised when she didn’t tell me that this person was her family member. Instead, we turned around and walked back out of the gate. I was a little confused and worried that I’d misunderstood her, so I asked again whose house that was. This time she explained that it was her family’s house but that sadly both of her parents, her two brothers and one of her sisters had been killed in the genocide. My heart dropped. Of course we all know that anyone over the age of 20 probably remembers the horrors of the genocide, but this was the first time that someone had spoken so openly to me about it ; or spoken about it at all. I gave my condolences as best as I could in French. This is one of the biggest challenges of not being a native speaker – I don’t know which words to use to express the correct emotions, especially for such a sensitive situation.
After leaving her family’s house, we walked down the street a bit further to where Sophie lives now, along with her sister, her niece (15) and her nephew (12). I was welcomed as if I was a long-time friend. Immediately Sophie and her sister showed me a photo album of their family. I was happy that I’d brought my camera because I was able to flip through and show them a few pictures of my family as well. They were both surprised to see that I had not one, but two grandmothers! (Grandmothers are unfortunately not common in Rwanda). While looking at pictures, Sophie's sister asked me what kind of Fanta I wanted. Fanta is popular here, but I've only really seen the orange one. That's when I realized that, like "Coke" in the South, "Fanta" is synonymous with "soda" here. So, I said that I liked, "Coca-Cola Fanta."
After talking about family, Sophie showed me around her house. The house was new, only five years old, and was quite large with four bedrooms and a living room inside, and then a kitchen, showers and a laundry room detached from the house. A young girl was cooking our lunch and she was introduced to me as “the girl of the house,” which is a literal translation. I think she works for their family full-time, and she is truly an incredible cook. We had fried bananas, rice, beef and curried vegetables.
Before lunch in our wraps |
Before we sat down, I finally convinced them to let me help set the table. Sophie brought me a large, colorful wrap and showed me how to put it on like a skirt over my clothes. Both she and her sister had done the same. When I asked why, she said it was “the culture.” Everyone laughed hysterically when I put mine on (mostly because I couldn’t get it to stay up) and we started taking a bunch of pictures!
After lunch, Sophie and I said our good-byes and we started walking back towards the center city. I thanked all of them continuously – they were such kind hostesses, and I felt privileged to have been invited to their home. It’s fun to meet someone here and see what real Rwandan life is like!
This morning when I saw Sophie, she said that her sister said “say hello to my new friend Merida!” (“Meredith” is a pretty unpronounceable name just about everywhere I’ve ever been). As I’ve said several times, I am continually amazed with how warm and welcoming the Rwandan people are!
Reason number 1,398,999 why Virginia is the best state
Yesterday at breakfast I met a group of Americans who are volunteering at a camp that provides mentoring and creative learning for orphaned children. As we kept talking, I realized that they were almost all from Virginia! The founder, who graduated from Virginia Tech, started this organization in 2007 and has been bringing groups of volunteers here every year since. Her organization (www.hopeshines.org) is really inspiring and I encourage you to check out her website. They invited me to dinner last night and it was nice hearing what brings other people to Rwanda. Several of them came to love Kigali and Rwanda as much as I have and have come multiple times to work at the camps. I'm going to go help-out at their camp on Friday after work.
Church and Rwanda Orphans Project
This afternoon, I had plans to meet for lunch with an ex-pat from Germany who's working for a Catholic aid organization. At 11:00am I went to the church across from my guest house, assuming that I would have plenty of time to meet for lunch at 12:30pm. The service was lively and fun and I didn't even realize that it went for about 2 hours! Part of the reason for the length is that each new person was asked to stand-up and introduce his/herself (myself included). So, I was a bit late for my lunch meeting, but church in Rwanda was a really neat experience!
When I got to the restaurant after church, I met Christine, who has been living in Rwanda for several years and has been working in Africa for even longer. It was fun hearing about her experiences! She's a life-long ex-pat and said that she can't imagine ever returning to Germany. In fact, she said that she may want to live in Montana, which is where she went to college. I think she and I may go to "Swahili Night" this week.
During lunch, I was excited to get a text from the Rwanda Orphans Project (ROP) saying that I could come out for my first visit today. ROP was started in 2005 by a group of doctors from San Diego. They’ve been through several changes and now have a center for almost 100 boys on the outskirts of Kigali. I spent a few hours there today tutoring one of their older boys who is about to take the national exams for his senior year of school. Unfortunately he did not have a textbook, and I wasn’t exactly sure how helpful I was considering that he needed the most help in economics. One might think that since I just graduated from business school that I’d have a firm grasp on this subject – but no. In fact, I emailed a few people from Kellogg tonight hoping that I can “phone a friend” for the answers to a few questions.
However, I was extremely impressed by his perseverance. He was orphaned during the genocide and lived on the streets for several years, so I’m told. Now, it is very likely that he will go to college. He is very serious about his studies and when he heard that I wanted to tutor, he immediately ran and got his books despite the fact that it’s his summer vacation.
All of the boys were extremely kind and polite, and I am excited for my next trip to see them. They love visitors, and the next time I visit, I’m going to try and find a creative way to teach a class in their new activity center. The people who run ROP are inspiring, as you’d imagine. They don’t have much funding at all – it all comes from private donors. So, meals consist of cornmeal and beans and they’ve had to be very creative with donations. The activity center has two book shelves of toys and books. One of the girls at the center told me that most of the boys had never seen or played with toys / books until they arrived there. I’m really impressed with all that they’re doing for these children; I wish I could do more for them. It's all a little overwhelming at times because there are so many ways that these children need help. In fact, along the lines of wanting to help, I heard a wonderful quote this week that perhaps encompasses the feeling:
"We can do no great things, only small things with great love."- Mother Teresa
So, with that I'll end this very long post. I hope that everyone has a wonderful week! As always, I love and miss you all!
Love,
Meredith
Meredith