It’s taken me four months to finally sit down and finish this blog. Perhaps that’s because I didn’t want it to be over. But more likely, it’s because even though I’m back stateside now, every day my life is impacted by the lessons I learned and the people I met while in Rwanda this summer. I’m not going to change what I wrote from the Detroit airport on my trip home; instead, I’m only going to add this one introductory paragraph and a final summary at the end.
August 21, 2011: Homeward bound
Well, I must be one of those super patriotic people because I haven’t stopped smiling since I deplaned…and I’m only in Detroit. I’ve been walking around with this strange clown smile looking more fondly than ever at McDonald’s (there are none in East Africa), automatic sinks in bathrooms, drinkable tap water and how nicely-dressed everyone looks. I actually laughed out loud as I walked through one of the moveable walk-ways that takes you between terminals at the Detroit Airport. The hall was about as long as a football field with moving walkways and green-lights from floor to ceiling in an arch – kind of like the entrance to Space Mountain in Disney World. I’m pretty sure that single walkway would’ve blown-out my entire neighborhood in Kigali! It’s important to note, however, that part of this silly smile effect could be general delirium since I have been in transit for over 24 hours at this point.
I can’t wait to see my family. As I return from this truly special and enlightening trip, I’m reminded of how inspired I am every day by my parents and my brother Matthew. Now that I have to start the “real world” again (i.e. work), I hope to discover how I can make a positive difference in the world like they have. My entire family – grandmothers, aunts, uncles, and cousins – has been so supportive of this trip, even though I know it’s kept some of them up at nights with worry. I’m lucky to have such an amazing family that supports my thirst for knowledge and experiences! Coming from a place like Rwanda where many people my age do not have parents at all, let alone a large extended family, I am even more grateful for the fact that I not only get to come home to a family, but also my family, a family that is full of caring, generous, loving people who inspire me every day and have for my entire life.
As usual, I’ll sum up what I’ve been doing for the past few days and then end with some general thoughts on this trip.
Last day in Kigali
On Friday night, my last night in Kigali, I went to an Indian restaurant called Khana Kazana with my friends from Hope Shines. Khana Kazana is a favorite with ex-pats in Kigali and happens to be in my backyard. My favorite part of the experience is the birthday song – so of course we had to select someone to have a “birthday” on Friday night. This birthday song is not like the one you get at Fuddruckers where three people clap, quietly single “Happy Birthday” and then you blow out a candle on a brownie. No, at Khana it’s a huge, interactive production. The lights go down in the entire restaurant, all of the restaurant staff come clapping and dancing out of the kitchen, and then they dance a lap around the dining room to the tune of FIVE different birthday songs. One is good ole’ “Happy Birthday.” The second is the same song, but in French. And the third, fourth and fifth are versions of “For He’s a Jolly Good Fellow.” After walking around the restaurant dancing and clapping, the servers arrive at the birthday person’s chair, put an oversized cone-shaped birthday hat on his/her head and then serve a big plate of ice cream and fruit to the table while making the birthday boy or girl get up and dance with everyone. We selected one of the Hope Shines volunteers, the youngest of us, to have a “birthday” that night. It was a great surprise for him!
Hope Shines crew at Khana |
Birthday! |
More birthday! |
My last old-fashioned coffee and pre-America Bagels
African Bagel Company |
After about an hour, my coworker and his wife pulled up to Iris so that we could all go out and have one last lunch together. They said we were going to a place called the African Bagel Company and that it was, and I quote, “interesting....” We drove out past the airport and even past where the Rwanda Orphans Project was located (about 20 minutes from Iris). We turned down a small, unpaved side street that was lined with bamboos-fenced homes and a massive (for Rwanda) amount of SUV’s. There were only a few explanations for that scene. Either the president’s convoy of SUV’s was there (unlikely); the embassy was having a conference there (unlikely still); or it was a gathering place for ex-pats. Sure enough, we walked through a bamboo gate and it was like a “little America.” It looked like your neighbor’s backyard barbeque. Outside of a small, open-air house, teenage children of missionaries sold ex-pat staples that you can’t find elsewhere in Kigali: take-and-bake pizza, donuts, and of course, bagels.
More friends at African Bagel Company |
Lessons learned in the Land of a Thousand Hills
I know that two months may not seem like a long time to some people, particularly those who are lifetime ex-pats, but it was the 2nd longest period of time I’ve ever spent outside of the U.S. continuously. For those who don’t know, my longest time outside of the U.S. was for studying abroad in Paris, which, although different from the U.S., is not nearly as different as Rwanda. So for me, this two months has been quite an experience.
I think we can become complacent sometimes when we hear about or see commercials for children who are starving or poor or suffering from disease in other parts of the world. Sometimes it seems like too big of a problem for one person to help. In person, seeing it with your own eyes, it seems overwhelming too, but it’s also different altogether. Hearing that a child doesn’t have food or shoes is one thing – but hearing him or her talk about what that means is another.
But more than that, what I saw in Rwanda was not summarized by hunger and need. What I saw was a community of people who are joyful in life and faith. The Rwandan people are happy and welcoming and generous and an inspiration to the world when you consider how far they’ve come in only 17 years since the war. The fact that several current Rwandans had never even been to the country when they joined in the efforts to stop the war says a lot about the commitment and patriotism of everyone here.
I finished that last paragraph just before I packed-up my bookbag to walk to the gate and board my plane from Detroit to Richmond. At that moment I was excited for a 2-hour flight and then I’d finally be home…that did not happen. I was supposed to arrive home sometime in the afternoon because, after all, I’d been traveling for over a full day at that point. KLM Airlines are nice but brushing my teeth on in an airport gets old. Yet, as some of you know, I didn’t arrive home until much later.
For some unknown reason, I hadn’t been issued a seat assignment for my second flight (Amsterdam to Detroit). I was told to ask the gate attendant when I arrived and that it’d be sorted out. So, I walked over to the gate and asked the attendant if she could please help me my seat assignment. She then asked, or rather, told me to “sit down.” Ok – too tired to argue. So about 10 minutes later, when I saw a line forming, I asked again. And again, she said, please sit down. Ok. (Keep in mind that I have not slept, showered or eaten non-plane food in way too many hours to be patient, but miraculously it happened). After all, I’d just finished writing to you all about how grateful I was for everything we have here in America…why would I start complaining right away?
Since I noticed that the plane hadn’t even arrived yet, I figured we were going to be late, and decided to walk up the hall and grab a bottle of water. When I returned to the gate, I kept waiting for my number to be called until I all of a sudden realized that the “destination” board above the gate displayed “New Orleans” now instead of “Richmond.” In a panic, I ran up to the gate and sure enough the plane had somehow arrived, boarded and departed in about 15 minutes. I didn’t think I’d been gone that long, but what could you do?
I was about to cry and everyone around me realized this, so immediately Delta issued me a voucher (which was maybe a discreet way of someone telling me that my travels shouldn’t be over just yet), and two Richmonders asked me to join them for dinner while we all wait. They had voluntarily taken the bump to get the voucher. In reality, I think what happened is that they didn’t have a seat for me so they put me on the “volunteer” list.
Flying home... |
Going forward...
Since I’ve been home, I’ve been determined to stay connected to Rwanda in some way. I decided to sponsor one of the children at Rwanda Orphans Project – $35/month pays school fees for an elementary school student – and I helped two of my coworkers at EGPAF to raise money for the Ariel Camp children to help with their school fees. I firmly believe that education is one of the best ways to give hope to the next generation, so that’s been my focus so far.
I’ve also tried to stay in touch with Jean de Dieu, the orphan I tutored at ROP. This is a very important year for him as it’s his last year of secondary school and he had to take the national exams. In his last email to me, he said that he’d taken all of the exams and that he would find out his scores in April. He confessed that he’s nervous about what life after the orphanage will look like, but I am hopeful that he will find his place and succeed at whatever he decides to do. He, like many of my Rwandan friends, has a big heart and that goes a long way. I pasted his New Year’s wishes from one of his letters below:
i'd like to express my best wishes for 2012
may the hand of God be upon you and your beloved ones, granting you success to your projects, keeping health and making you more helpful giving the blessings to others
and thanks for good message and kindness to me
Finally, I want to comment on the fact that I think Christmas is an ideal time to be finishing this blog. In Rwanda, there is good and bad just like anywhere else. One is not better than the other, but there are things we can learn from every person and experience. I like to think that in some way, the people I encountered learned from me, and I’d like to reflect on some of the primary things I learned from the Rwandan people.
First and foremost, I think the thing that we can all learn from Rwandans is how to have a positive outlook on life and be grateful for every heartbeat and moment that you get to spend on this earth. Rwandan people do not hesitate to tell you they miss you or care about you or are grateful for you. Even since I’ve been back, I’ve gotten several messages from people at Iris asking how I’m doing and how my family is doing. If I had to guess, I’d assume that once you’ve been through a cultural tragedy such as a genocide, you truly recognize how short life is and how truly fragile yet important human life can be.
I’m grateful for the fact that I just spent Christmas with not just one family member, but over 20! I’m grateful for the fact that we have food to eat and electricity and clean water. And in some ways, I’m grateful for the fact that most of us don’t even know that we should be grateful for those things. As Americans we are lucky in so many more ways than I could even count. What inspired me about the Rwandans I met is that whether they were wealthy or completely without, at the end of the day they were faithful, hopeful and cared about each other. I hope that in reading this blog, people will stop and give thanks for even the seemingly “little” things that allow us to grow and prosper as a family, community and country that supports each other and grows through love and hope.
P.S. I haven’t eaten a single peanut butter and jelly sandwich since I got back – I don’t even have those ingredients in my cabinet!
P.P.S. Thank goodness for this amazing internet connection that’s going to upload this blog in about one-fifth the time it took in Kigali J
- If you’re interested in sponsoring a child at ROP, here’s the link: http://www.rwandanorphansproject.org/sponsor.php
- If you want to read an article by EGPAF on what we did over the summer, here’s another link (these are pictures of my two ex-pat coworkers): http://www.pedaids.org/What-We-re-Doing/Foundation-Blog/October-2011/Campers-at-Ariel-Camp-learn,-laugh,-and-live,
- EGPAF Ariel Camp photos here: http://www.pedaids.org/Multimedia-Gallery/Photo-Stories/Inside-an-Ariel-Camp-in-Rwanda--Fun,-Friendship-an.
Ariel Camp, Rwanda 2011 |